What has really got me angry over the last few weeks is the number of stories I’m hearing from strong women that have received negative comments and criticism from friends, family, work colleagues and random strangers about the way the look, how they are eating and their passion for health and fitness.
I’m disgusted that people think that they have the right to belittle someone or put them down because they are doing something good with their life! They are achieving their goals and transforming their mind and their body.
These women are making positive changes in all aspects of life. They wake up every day and go to the gym and train because they love feeling good, they have a goal and they are determined to achieve it.
They food prep at the weekend so their week is made easier to fit everything in and still stay on track. They make sensible food choices based on their goals, what is going to fuel them and make them feel good.
They strive to be a better version of themselves. 💫
They have control over their actions.💫
They have been educated on flexible dieting, they have the choice to eat cake, drink alcohol but they choose to not do it every day. Why?
💎Because they would much rather eat their macros than drink them.
💎Because they much prefer waking up feeling good and going to the gym to train, then drinking all night and feeling shit for 4 days.
💎Because they love the feeling of empowerment from lifting something heavy
💎Because they have realised how good they can feel when they look after their body.
💎Because they are so driven to achieve their goals, your stupid comments will not deter them
Stupid comments like:
“You look really manly”
“cover up your arms because you might offend someone with your muscles.” “
Are you eating again, wow you eat a lot”
“Just eat a biscuit”
“Dont lose any more weight”
“Just have a drink, oh your so boring”
"You're going to hurt yourself lifting that weight"
Any of those sound familiar to you?
It’s unfortunate that this occurs a lot and It’s sad that this happens in age where health and fitness is an important factor in many peoples lives.
If you are experiencing this from friends or family, then I would encourage you to try and talk to them about your journey, why you are training, why tracking your food is important and how you feel and the impact it has on you life. Most of the time its down to not understanding and being too ignorant to ask what it is you are doing.
People will criticise things they don't understand.
If you are still getting negativity from friends or they just don’t want to hear what you have to say, then I can quite honestly say they are not an energy you need in your life.
Surround yourself with people that inspire, motivate and encourage you.
Not people that hate, criticise and judge you.
Sometimes it means breaking away from old relationships that no longer serve you. When fitness becomes a part of your life, it is hard to maintain old relationships that do not attract the same. Its not a bad things its just a natural part of life. You grow, you develop and your passions change. The people who you spend your time with should also reflect that.
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